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If you’re in the market for a new car but don’t know what you want, enlist one or more car rental companies for help. Ask the businesses to contact you when a new car arrives. You can make your request broad, so that it applies to all new cars, or narrow, so that you are called only when specific models or [...]

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If you’re on the fence about buying a new car, see if you can test drive it over a few days before purchasing it. It might be possible to do this through a dealership or a car rental company. If the dealership says no to letting you rent that model, contact local car rental companies and ask [...]

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If you’re looking for a hotel but have unique needs or circumstances, such as need flexibility on arrival or check out times, require transport, or plan to be in the area for an extended period of time, check out local B&Bs (“bed and breakfast” hotels or inns). Often, B&Bs will offer greater flexibility and are [...]

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Are you a commuter that frequently finds himself behind a driver that leaves a ton of space between her and the car in front of her? A space large enough that a number of cars are able to slip in front? If yes, it could be that you’re a habitual tailgater. Some people respond to [...]

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Save money on a car rental by doing the following. Set up a reservation for the lowest priced car you’d feel comfortable renting. When you arrive to pick up the car, inquire into what alternatives might be available. Tell the person behind the counter what you’d really like to rent. Provide a reasonable explanation for [...]

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If you ask a person if he needs directions, accept his answer when he says no. Do not continue to give directions after the person says no. Pushing directions on someone who does not want them can be really annoying and a waste of time!

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A good DJ sets a mood with music, taking her listeners on an emotional journey. The transition from one piece of music to another should be seamless. There should not be an abrupt change in pace or tone.

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Youth, consider the long-term consequences to some of your decisions. You may be able to have just as much fun while implementing simple solutions that will circumvent the long-term negative consequences of some decisions. For example, partying in front of giant speakers at a rave might be fun, but, is it worth the intense ear [...]

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Take it from a TPLL contributor’s personal experience: do not build a large fire under an out-cropping of rock – especially those composed of limestone – during cold or wet seasons. Expansion of water within the stone can lead to fractures dropping stones from the ceiling. This contributor and her friends were enjoying a bonfire [...]

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If you’re trying to form relationships, don’t wait for an invitation - invite the person or people out, instead!

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We’re excited about the rapid growth and popularity of the website Bucket List Publications, most notably for the contributions its founders plan to make to the fulfillment of others’ dreams. Bucket List Publications is accomplishing this in a number of a ways. First, by introducing people to and guiding them through a world of adventure. The founding author, [...]

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If you’re looking to discourage attention from a person or create some distance, affect a spacey look and ask the same question multiple times (but not all at once) or ask uncomfortable aesthetic questions, such as if your hair is greasy. Or, if his hair is greasy.

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The only way to get your way on city streets is making the other person stop.

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Courtney Mara is a very young, increasingly popular, interactive travel blog that invites its visitors to be contributors. It’s travel tips range by location, season or holiday, and interests. The blog offers great recommendations for trip planners, “DOs” and “DON’Ts” for casual travellers, and interesting highlights and tidbits for local inhabitants looking to try something new. Courtney Mara.com It also has an [...]

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Establish signals with your partner, friends, family, and colleagues to escape conversations or events, such as: Rubbing the side of your nose, Winking, Dropping something on the floor that rolls (that you and your colleague will have to chase then), Remind your colleague that he must do something or speak to someone, or Tell your colleague that you want to [...]

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Save money while enriching your holiday experience by making gifts or decorations out of a variety of recyclable goods. For example, make colorful wreaths out of used magazine pages, or offer to share those magazines that are in good condition with friends or colleagues. Ornaments can be made from plastic containers. Glass bottles or damaged drinkware can be sanded [...]

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Following are signs that your favorite TV show might be coming to an end. Musical episodes Unusual life-altering developments to primary characters New permanent characters that are “children” of a primary character (especially those that are suddenly fully grown children) Alternate universe or time travel episodes Vacation or extended-travel episodes Celebrities join the show as [...]

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Always keep an extra set of clothes and small toiletries with you. One never knows what might happen. For example, you might get stuck at the office during a natural disaster.

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If you’re going to hitchhike, improve your chances of catching a ride by making yourself appear approachable. For example, wear bright colors or pastels, clean-up or appear well-groomed, and do your best to look young and cheerful.

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Within your mind is a universe in which you create your own worlds and adventures, limited by your imagination and desires only.

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Create your own natural short term rebreather by maintaining a pocket of air in your mouth while swimming and slowly feigning an intake of breath, sucking the pocket of air towards the back of your throat when you feel the need to inhale.

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If you’re travelling to another country, maximize your experience by learning basic phrases of the native language and aspects of the culture prior to entering the country. Knowing basic phrases will enable you to accomplish tasks with greater ease and reduce the efforts others must make to assist you. Making an effort to understand the [...]

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It’s nice to provide options. But too many options can distract from the fun. If you’re trying to provide options for things such as activities and food, don’t hesitate to put a cap on the number of options. It’s difficult for a person to miss what she did not know was available.

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Generally, people will not waste time on something in which they do not have some form of an interest. Don’t doubt yourself when someone wants to spend time with you or invest in your ideas.

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If you find it difficult to socialize, for example, if you are shy or feel awkward, take acting classes. Through acting classes, you can learn how to disguise social anxiety. Further, classes of any kind will provide the following benefits. An opportunity to test and develop your skills Something to talk about in social situations [...]

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If you think you might have disappointed someone, such as a manager or a house guest, don’t remind that person of what you might have done wrong, or point out that what you’ve done should be interpreted as a disappointment, by apologizing without confirming that there is something to apologize for first. It might overwrite [...]

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Often, friends will let you know if there are specific things they want to see and do when visiting. If they haven’t provided a list, that generally means they are looking for your leadership and guidance. As a rule of thumb, to be a good host, inquire into preferences but don’t leave the planning up [...]

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Certain driving principles can be effective when applied in the workplace, business, or politics. Following is a very useful principle. If you’re driving on someone’s tail, do not directly follow the person’s path. This can lead to trouble. Instead, hang on a side to view activity ahead of the car. That way, you’ll be informed [...]

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If you’re looking for ideas, surf the net, watch documentaries, listen to talk radio, socialize at a cafe, read enlightening magazines.

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If you don’t remember a question, move on; don’t hold everyone up trying to remember the question. The question just was not that important or you would have remembered it. Under most circumstances, you can return to the question if you remember it later. In those circumstance in which you cannot return to the question, [...]

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Sometimes, you must play it safe in order to be a hero. Recently, a group of snorkelers was trailed by a great white shark in open water. As the large fish circled, one of the snorkelers stayed in the water to help others board the yacht. She put her own safety at risk, trying to [...]

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If you enjoy theatre, consider going to scholastic, local and off-Broadway productions. Going to scholastic, local and off-Broadway productions has numerous benefits. Following are a few. Generally, they are cheaper, so you’ll save money. It promotes the development of theatre and culture within your community. A greater percentage of the money you spend will be reinvested within [...]

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Studios have to stop referencing MySpace in movies if they want those movies to be taken seriously, especially by future audiences. It’s like saying “hook-up” for hanging out or meeting up with someone in a movie – it makes the parties involved seem grossly out of touch.

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If you want an idea of what a community is like, take a look at its infrastructure. The condition of bridges, roads, and other public resources reflects a community’s ethos: it’s priorities, whether the culture is collaborative, the extent to which it is egalitarian – rewarding people based on merit rather than privilege or status, and [...]

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Having trouble making the right connections? Seek out a social climber. They make it their business to know those in the know. Approached just right, and the social climber can be excited to show off his connections. Flattery – especially about the number and quality of those in the know that they know – goes a long way with a social [...]

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Want to lose weight and save money? Eat only half of a meal when eating out and take the rest home with you for a future meal. Avoid eating the left overs as an appetizer or late night snack. Also, drink water or fluids with nutritional value, such as juice, only.

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Take control of a conversation without being obvious by inserting a forced pause, such as by saying “um” while paging through a document, to suggest you’re about to raise a critical or compelling point. This method is handy if you’re concerned a team member might begin discussing a confidential subject with a person not authorized to receive the information. This [...]

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Many affect a persona in different situations. For example, a person might pretend to be helpless, insecure, or weak to elicit the assistance of others; seductive and playful to escape a bad situation, such as a ticket; incompetent or foolish to make others feel better about themselves or to avoid certain responsibilities; a queen bee to control the actions [...]

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If you’re shy, ask questions. Involved questions – ones that require thoughtful and detailed responses – will lengthen the conversation. They also please the person responding as it is an opportunity to speak at length about a favorite subject of many: themselves. Interject your experiences, as well. Adding your experiences will stimulate the dialogue. If you’re speaking with someone new, [...]

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If you’re trying to politely escape a conversation, rather than saying you have to go – which can make you look self-centered and implies the other person has been taking up your time, tell the person you won’t hold her up, take up any more of her time, or keep her any longer. This approach suggests greater [...]

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Flipping our post about interpreting body language, Reading His Lips, on its head, take care not to give yourself away through your body language. If you feel your body responding to a situation of anxiety, fear, or anger, try to slow things down. Slowing down the situation will provide your body time to recover and disguise [...]

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Sometimes bullies can be discouraged through means other than violence, such as by acting and sounding intimidating. For example, a voice can be applied to control some situations. This was illustrated in a recent episode of CSI, “The List.” In the episode, Dr. Langston used his voice to intimidate a prison population while investigating the murder of [...]

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For those married to their car horns, consider this: some people like tweaking others. The person you’re honking at might be getting a kick out of disturbing you. Car horns were not created as a means to express one’s self, but to use to avert injury. Likewise, in business, it is important to ensure one uses the correct [...]

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If you have ADHD, or something else that contributes to displays of hyperactivity, try to gain control of symptomatic behavior during business meetings. Hyperactive habits or ticks, such as rapid leg swinging, chair swivelling, or obsessive movement can affect the tone of the meeting. It communicates impatience, which can produce anxiety in some attendees, agitate others, and generally be disruptive. [...]

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Several lessons can be learned from the recent controversy involving NPR’s Ron Schiller and James O’Keefe’s organization, The Project Veritas (“the video-gate controversy”).  First, perform appropriate vetting before making an investment. In the video-gate controversy, the prospective donors’ credentials were not properly investigated. As a result, Ron Schiller and his colleague were reportedly unaware that they were victims [...]

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Learn to read body language and respond to what people are telling you through their actions. For example, if someone leans away or steps back from you when you lean in or step closer, she is communicating that you’re too close or that she is afraid of or insecure around you. Insecurity can also be projected by a [...]

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If you’re ordering a meal in with colleagues, accept that you may disappointed and prepare a response if you don’t receive what you ordered. You could lose the respect of your colleagues, even frighten a few, if you lose your head over something that will be difficult to resolve. It’s a good habit to practice at home, with friends, and while socializing, [...]

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Holidays – any day – are what you make of them. They have meaning only to the extent you want to give them meaning. But, a day doesn’t have to have meaning to share in the revelry.

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If you think something is wrong that could affect your physical safety, do not be afraid to speak up. Nor be embarrassed to have spoken up if your fears are not realized. A little over a year ago, a fire broke out in one TPLL contributor’s workplace. Even though the fire alarm went off, most of [...]

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If you are attacked while travelling abroad, try screaming loudly directly into the face of the attacker (just keep your eyes open while you do it). It works really well if you’re on the phone with your parents who won’t quit chattering long enough to let you handle the situation.

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Thinking of purchasing a new car? Think long term: consider investing ahead of the curve by purchasing an energy efficient car. It might require paying a little more, but, not only will you save money as gas prices rise, you’ll also achieve greater return in resale as the vehicle will be more consistent with the [...]

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To save time, create the effect of teamwork while waiting at a stoplight. When stopping, leave a car-length between your car and the vehicle in front of yours. Once the light turns green, slowly release the break and let your car begin rolling forward, even if the car in front of you has not begun [...]

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To save time and gas when entering a curve, maintain a straight line through the path of shortest distance (usually the inside of the curve), or, when not possible to maintain a straight line, hug the inside of the curve (usually by riding on the painted line). This has at least two business applications. First, [...]

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If lanes are merging, you can assume the leadership role by maintaining the lane – by hugging the line on the side of the lane closest to the joining cars or, if being joined on both sides, the center of the lane – and keeping the nose of your car in front of the other cars. [...]

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A person’s behavior can be influenced without the person knowing it. Take, for example, a thoroughfare that narrows into a single lane shortly after a stop light. Once the thoroughfare becomes a single lane, commuters are at the mercy of the cars in front for the speed at which they may travel. As such, there [...]

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To avoid accidents, pay attention to how the people behind you are driving, in addition to the people in front of and beside you. If there’s not a lot of space between your car and the person’s behind you, you might need to begin decelerating sooner than you would were the person not immediately behind you. [...]

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The rules behind defensive driving have applications to attaining success in business and other areas in life. This week will be dedicated to such comparisons.

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When joining a party, don’t start things off by saying you’re “going to have to leave early” or “can’t stay long.” It’s such a typical, overused move that it’s often discounted. Instead, save your excuses until you have to leave. See our post on discrete methods to extricate yourself from a party.

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If you go to a party, there’s no need to invent reasons for leaving. Just say that “it is time to leave” or you “have to get going.” Rarely will people ask questions as to why you are leaving. But, you will gain negative attention if they learn you volunteered an unnecessary, false reason for leaving. The host [...]

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Fear of flying is absolutely rational: you’re in a tin can, 35,000 feet up in the air, with nothing obvious supporting you. But, perhaps considering the physics behind flying will help overcome some of the fear? Following is an illustration that, hopefully, demonstrates how safe flying is. You might have heard this story before: a new owner of a sleek sports [...]

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If using movers to relocate, especially across state lines, put your name, destination address and contact phone number in large, bold, clear script on every package. On sealed items, print the information across the seal. Number each package and create a chart summarizing the contents of the box and condition of the box before loaded onto the [...]

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Great shows have been cancelled despite Emmy wins. An Emmy award does not guaranty its recipient future roles. What value do Emmys serve?

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Don’t stop before merging into traffic on a highway. Even though you’re trying to avoid an accident, you’re increasing the chances of causing one. Remember, you’re starting out at zero mph against traffic most likely going 50+ mph. Instead, follow the training and guidance of many driving instructors: speed up before merging onto a highway; [...]

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If you are naturally shy and plan to attend an event, fight the inclination to be fashionably late. Instead, be fashionably early - arrive shortly before or as the event starts. People are more receptive to socializing outside their network, outside their comfort zone, when there are fewer members of their comfort zone available. It provides [...]

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The Jerks

People who try to control the driving of others by interfering in their legal use of the roads – such as a person who waits to turn until an oncoming car nearly enters an intersection in order to slow that car’s speed, or a person who straddles the line between two lanes in order to prevent cars from passing - are [...]

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Expectations are the surest path to disappointment.

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