If you’re reading an advice column and would like to determine if the columnist’s judgment is reliable, read the person’s advice on matters of which you are an expert. For example, if you’re a woman reading a column about a man’s dating expectations and you’d like to know if you can rely upon the columnist’s advice, [...]
Archive for the ‘Enrichment’ Category
Sanity Check On Dating (Or Other) Advice
Posted in Dating, tagged Advice, Advice Columns, Attraction, Columns, Dating, Love, Relationships, Romance on 2012/05/31 | Leave a Comment »
Spread Your Words
Posted in Personal Enrichment, tagged Blog, Blogging, Communication, Feedback, Happiness, Help, Networking, Perspective, Relationships on 2012/05/26 | Leave a Comment »
Don’t be shy. If there’s something you want to say, trying blogging it. If you’re concerned about how it might affect relationships or your employment, consider blogging under your initials or a pseudonym. Or, test the waters by volunteering to contribute to a site or sites seeking guest bloggers. Let your voice be heard! There [...]
A Writing Assignment To Resolve Conflict
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Communication, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, Dating, Family, Friends, Happiness, Love, Relationships on 2012/05/21 | Leave a Comment »
If vocal communication is not working to resolve a dispute with a loved one, try a writing assignment, instead. Vocal communication can impede conflict resolution. Generally, people feel obligated to respond to the other person’s comments immediately. Long pauses are discomforting in vocal communication. Because people do not give themselves time to temper their emotional responses, [...]
Gentle Ways To Tell Someone It’s For Their Own Good
Posted in Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, Improving Relationships, tagged Business, Communication, Success, Work, Management, Relationships, Document on 2012/05/20 | Leave a Comment »
In regards to yesterday’s post, Writing Is A Guide To Success, following are methods in which you could document your communication in writing without being offensive. Create an electronic file that is intended as a means to communicate between staff, teams, and departments. Following are three examples. A document in which one Department can record [...]
Writing Is A Guide To Success
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Business, Communication, Management, Relationships, Success, Work on 2012/05/19 | Leave a Comment »
Communication is a word that is often heard in business or relationship contexts. It’s often referred to as being key to success or failures. Our lives are whelmed by activities, responsibilities, and distractions. A multitude of communication media (such as email, instant messages, text messages, and calls) surrounds us. As a result, it’s become relatively easy [...]
One Cool Mind
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Goals, Perspective, Problem Solving, Psychology, Relationships, Results, Success on 2012/05/18 | Leave a Comment »
If you can tell that a critical situation is escalating, and you are contributing to that escalation, take a step back and evaluate (i) what are your goals – what do you really want to achieve – and (ii) if the responses you are considering will actually lead to obtaining that goal. Sometimes, all that [...]
Easy Method To Disguise Your Distaste Of Someone’s Cooking
Posted in Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Cooking, Diet, Eating, Entertainment, Food, Holidays, Meals on 2012/05/13 | Leave a Comment »
If you’d like to be polite by trying a dish someone else has made, but suspect you will not like the dish, take only a small portion at the start of the meal. Then, if you like it, you can take more. If you don’t like it, you can give the impression that you like it [...]
Return To The Table To Lose Weight
Posted in Beauty, tagged Beauty, Dieting, Eating, Eating Habits, Habits, Happiness, Health, Life, Weight Loss on 2012/05/12 | Leave a Comment »
Are you striving – and struggling – to lose weight? Do you tend to eat anywhere other than at a table? Do you prefer to multitask or enjoy distractions while you eat? (Be honest, do you eat at your work desk? Or with the TV on?) To paraphrase Einstein, if one method doesn’t work, try [...]
Boost Your Memory At Work
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, tagged Forgetting, Happiness, Health, Home, Journal, Memory, Record, Success, Work on 2012/05/06 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re having trouble remembering things at work, keep a journal with you to record information such as decisions made during a meeting, conclusions from data, or facts affecting a transaction. Then, take time at the end of your day to rewrite and organize what you had recorded earlier. This will help you remember and prioritize [...]
Don’t Forget To Write!
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Cards, Communication, Dating, Friends, Friendship, Gift, Happiness, Life, Love, Networking on 2012/05/03 | Leave a Comment »
Receiving an unexpected printed card can be a great pick-me-up. Charm family, friends, former colleagues, and others by sending a card occasionally, outside the holiday season. The greater, funnier, or more complex the card, the less you need to write. Jotting a message on a card might require only minutes of your time, but can produce long-lasting rewarding effects on your relationships.
Southern Remedies: Shrink Pores
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, tagged Beauty, Health, Lemon, Natural Remedies, Remedies, Secrets, Tea, Tips, Wellbeing on 2012/04/18 | Leave a Comment »
Following is the second tip provided by the woman referred to in yesterday’s post. Tip: To shrink pores, brush the inside of lemon rinds that had been soaking in sugar-sweetened (the sugar is key!) tea or Arnold Palmers over your skin. I’ve been testing this tip over the last several days, with great results! My pores look smaller. [...]
Posted in Beauty, tagged Desserts, Diet, Dieting, Food, Happiness, Health, Joy, Lose Weight, Wellness on 2012/04/14 | Leave a Comment »
Make dieting easier by storing the bad (but yummy!) stuff (a) in out-of-the-way places in which a lot of effort is necessary to access the bad stuff, or (b) behind the good (but not so yummy) stuff.
Hide The Elevators, Highlight The Stairs
Posted in Beauty, tagged Dieting, Exercise, Fitness, Health, Office, Stairs, Weight Loss, Wellness, Work on 2012/04/11 | Leave a Comment »
Employers, want to reduce electrical costs and facilitate employee health and weight loss? Make elevators difficult to find. (No joke! We’ve found a company where accessing elevators is like navigating a maze, while stairwells and posters encouraging their use are visible at every turn.)
Don’t Help Bad Bosses Win
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Bad Bosses, Employers, Employment, Jobs, Relationships, Success, Work, Workplace Conflict on 2012/04/10 | Leave a Comment »
If you had a difficult experience with a previous employer, don’t force your colleagues to live it with you by repeatedly rehashing it. Your previous employer wins if you constantly rehash your experiences with colleagues because it shows that the employer still has some control over you by being ever-present in your mind. Additionally, such actions can irrevocably damage [...]
Weight Loss Tip: Build On Motivation
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, tagged Diet, Dieting, Exercise, Fitness, Happiness, Health, Joy, Lose Weight, Office, Race Walking, Speed Walking, Walking, Wellness, Work on 2012/04/08 | Leave a Comment »
If you’d like to increase your amount of exercise but are finding it difficult to drum up the will, start small and gradually build on that. For example, create a walking plan that begins with a single lap around your neighborhood, office building, or floor. Add another benchmark every few weeks until you reach your [...]
Weight Loss Tip: Play With Your Pets
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, Pets & Animals, tagged Cats, Diet, Dieting, Dogs, Exercise, Fitness, Happiness, Health, Joy, Lose Weight, Pets, Wellness on 2012/04/07 | Leave a Comment »
Burn calories, have fun, and enrich your pets’ lives by playing with them regularly. For example, if you’re busy, set aside a short block of time – such as 15 minutes – to toss and sprint after a ball with your pet. With a smaller pet, it might be possible to do this inside. If [...]
Weight Loss Tip: Stay In Motion
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, tagged Calisthenics, Dance, Diet, Dieting, Exercise, Fitness, Happiness, Health, Joy, Lose Weight, Wellness on 2012/04/06 | Leave a Comment »
Burn calories and work out by not standing still when doing things that require standing for an extended period, such as cooking, brushing your teeth, or ogling your image in a mirror. You can dance, hop about, perform stretches, or practice calisthenics (such as calf raises). As we mentioned in a previous post, the same can [...]
Want Better Results? Team With The Pro.
Posted in Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Doctors, Health, Healthcare, Medicine on 2012/04/01 | Leave a Comment »
To cultivate a respectful beneficial relationship with a new doctor, don’t tell him what you think you have; tell him what you are experiencing and then, if you’re really worried, ask if he thinks you might have what you suspect. This is a good rule of thumb to apply with any other service provider, as well.
Posted in Things Better Off Said, tagged Crime, Dating, Happiness, Infatuation, Love, Romance, Stalking on 2012/03/23 | Leave a Comment »
Common axiom generously filled with truth: Unrecipocated love is infatuation. If you’re stalking, move on. Find someone more receptive to your interest. Try to be open-minded and open-eyed. True happiness might not come in a package of beauty and/or wealth. Originally published 01 March 2011.
Posted in Family Enrichment, Things Better Off Said, tagged Dating, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Matchmaking, Relationships, Romance on 2012/03/22 | Leave a Comment »
Old matchmaker’s axiom: To ensure a lifetime of happiness and satisfaction, marry a person that loves you more than you do him. Originally published 28 February 2011.
Additional Things Guys Like But Won’t Tell You
Posted in Dating, Improving Relationships, tagged Attraction, Dating, Happiness, Love, Massage, Relationships, Romance on 2012/03/20 | 1 Comment »
Following are additional things guys like but wont tell you. Ear nibbles Kisses along the shell of his ear Scalp massages Shoulder and neck rubs Compliments Generally, it’s a safe bet that if you like something, your guy will like it, too.
Posted in Personal Enrichment, tagged Bad Days, Bullies, Dating, Failure, Good Days, Happiness, Relationships, Success on 2012/03/15 | Leave a Comment »
Even though you might be having a bad day, remember that you’ll have good days, too.
Cultivate Continued Good Behavior With Small Rewards
Posted in Family Enrichment, tagged Behavior, Child, Children, Family, Fun, Happiness, Parent, Parenting, Play-Doh on 2012/03/14 | Leave a Comment »
It goes without saying that parents would like consistently good, constructive behavior from their children, such as putting away toys or cleaning up messes after play. Even though these acts might seem trivial because they are generally expected, parents can encourage continued good behavior by rewarding them with small prizes, such as stickers, from a “prize [...]
Camp- Or Bonfire Safety Tip: More Than H2O Can Rain On You
Posted in Things Better Off Said, Travel, tagged Camping, Caves, Caving, Fires, Health, Safety, Spelunking, Travel on 2012/03/12 | Leave a Comment »
Take it from a TPLL contributor’s personal experience: do not build a large fire under an out-cropping of rock – especially those composed of limestone – during cold or wet seasons. Expansion of water within the stone can lead to fractures dropping stones from the ceiling. This contributor and her friends were enjoying a bonfire [...]
Noteworthy Site For Realizing Your Dreams: Bucket List Publications
Posted in Entertainment, Noteworthy Sites, Personal Enrichment, Travel, tagged Adventure, Bucket List, Bucket List Publications, Dreams, Entertainment, Excitement, Happiness, Health, Jan Hanson, Lesley Carter, Life, Travel, Wish Fulfillment, Wishes, World on 2012/03/04 | Leave a Comment »
We’re excited about the rapid growth and popularity of the website Bucket List Publications, most notably for the contributions its founders plan to make to the fulfillment of others’ dreams. Bucket List Publications is accomplishing this in a number of a ways. First, by introducing people to and guiding them through a world of adventure. The founding author, [...]
Turn Yelling Into A Learning Experience For You & Your Child
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Child, Development, Family, Happiness, Learning, Life, Love, Parenting on 2012/03/03 | 1 Comment »
Few parents want to yell at their children, yet nearly all do. We don’t condone yelling at children, but, if you slip, turn it into a teachable moment. When you cool off, sit down with your child and invite him to share his thoughts and feelings about the experience. Listen to him – don’t turn [...]
The Powerful Effect Of Disengagement
Posted in Improving Relationships, Lessons From Divorce, tagged Argument, Communication, Friends, Happiness, Health, Love, Mental Health, Relationships on 2012/03/02 | 1 Comment »
A common suggestion to temper conflict is to walk away, giving everyone time and space to calm down. However, care should be taken when applying this to conflict with loved ones. “Walking away” does not necessarily mean suddenly halting an argument and turning your back on someone. Abrupt physical disengagement has emotional consequences. It harms [...]
To Get What You Want, Be Forthcoming
Posted in Personal Enrichment, tagged Communication, Dating, Friendship, Gifts, Happiness, Life, Love, Pleasure, Relationships on 2012/03/01 | Leave a Comment »
If you have a partner that historically has not been the most thoughtful gift giver, be honest with the person and provide him guidance on what you want. It’s inequitable to hold a person to expectations that have not been communicated to him. Plus, it will ensure a more satisfying event. Originally published 02 January [...]
Things Guys Like But Won’t Tell You
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Attraction, Chocolates, Dating, Flowers, Gifts, Happiness, Love, Romance, Spa on 2012/02/28 | 7 Comments »
Following is a list of items many guys like but won’t tell you. Hugs Snugs (snuggling) Surprise gifts Flowers Chocolates Entwining feet Subtle PDA (public displays of affection) Entwining fingers Laughter in response to their jokes Being told that they are loved Massages Special treatment “Eskimo” kisses or nuzzling Some men even enjoy spas, eyebrow [...]
Before Committing, Confirm The Beauty Tip Works For You
Posted in Beauty, tagged Cosmetics, Fashion, Hollywood, Make-Up, Mary Kay, Oscars, Red Carpet, Style on 2012/02/27 | Leave a Comment »
The intent of this post is not to discourage people from buying Mary Kay cosmetics but to caution people against adopting Mary Kay’s application tips without comparing the results to other recommended techniques. There are very few face shapes upon which the Mary Kay application tips will produce flattering results. Also, as can be seen by [...]
Welcome To The Family
Posted in Family Enrichment, tagged Commitment, Engagement, Family, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Wedding on 2012/02/26 | 1 Comment »
When we marry, we are not marrying just a person. We’re wedding the person’s family. While some of us might be able to separate ourselves from our family, others are not. If there’s a chance that you are marrying a person equally wedded to his or her family, questions such as the following should be [...]
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Behavior, Bullies, Employment, Happiness, Life, Love, Relationships, Success on 2012/02/23 | Leave a Comment »
Don’t let things you have no control over, such as dealing with obtuse clerks, bullies, lousy traffic, a punishing boss, strain your relationships.
How To Make Seemingly Inconsistent Messages Consistent
Posted in Improving Relationships, Manage Successfully, tagged Business, Children & Family, Communication, Employee Relations, Employment, Life, Love, Relationship, Success on 2012/02/15 | Leave a Comment »
With children, partners, and employees, ensure that your message to each is consistent. For example, don’t push your son out the door to get exercise only to chastise him for staying out too long. Don’t castigate your spouse for insufficient communication, and then criticize her for a profuse email. Don’t censure an employee for digging [...]
Posted in Dating, Personal Enrichment, tagged Dating, Friends, Happiness, Life, Love, Pleasure, Relationship, Valentine on 2012/02/14 | Leave a Comment »
Put work in its place. It’s Valentine’s Day. Go out and enjoy it!
Noteworthy Crowdsource Funding Site: Kickstarter
Posted in Business, Noteworthy Sites, Personal Enrichment, Technology, tagged Crowdsourcing, Financing, Gifts, Innovation, Kickstarter, Publishing, Success, Supermechanical, Twine on 2012/02/12 | 1 Comment »
The crowd sourcing site Kickstarter is a funding platform enabling people to finance the production of an item in exchange for a copy of or other benefit tied to that item. Innovators seeking financing for a project, such as the production of a gadget, but wanting to maintain control over their project can post it on Kickstarter. An innovator sets [...]
A Polite Short-Cut To Customer Service
Posted in Business, Finances, Getting Ahead, tagged Business, Communication, Customer Service, Dispute, Management, Success on 2012/02/10 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re struggling to reach customer service, call a department in the home office that employs licensed professionals – generally, they’ll make more effort to connect you to the appropriate, helpful person.
You Don’t Have To Share Everything In A Marriage
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Employment, Job Security, Love, Marriage, Mental Health, Partner, Security, Spouse, Stress on 2012/02/09 | Leave a Comment »
There’s no obligation to tell your spouse everything; especially things over which he has no control and cannot positively effect that will only increase his stress. If he’s working through his own stressors, what value is added by piling on other worries? If you can contain your own emotional turbulence about things such as job insecurity [...]
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Charity, Contribution, NGO, Nonprofit, NPO, Participation on 2012/02/06 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re going to join a group that requires contributing some type of action, such as building a product or delivering speeches, make an effort to participate. Otherwise, you’re just a hanger on, no matter how much money you contribute.
Posted in Improving Relationships, Politics, Psychology, tagged Caring, Children & Family, Diplomacy, Empathy, Love, Peace, Politics, Relationship, Success on 2012/02/05 | Leave a Comment »
If you don’t care, there’s no reason (excuse) to not be empathetic.
Are Your Values Borrowed?
Posted in Family Enrichment, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Children, Faith, Family, Love, Parenting, Values, Work on 2012/02/04 | Leave a Comment »
Often, our aspirations are set by our parents. Our parents communicate what is important, what generates value in their lives, through their actions. Parents who work endless hours for their employers communicate to their children that working endless hours is how one emulates maturity and demonstrates commitment to his employer. Step back. Reassess your values. [...]
Long Term Perspective On Success & Failure
Posted in Business, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Attraction, Business, Failure, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Success on 2012/02/03 | Leave a Comment »
Accept that at times you will fail. Likewise, when you do fail, remember that you will experience success again. By the time we retire, we’ll most likely have racked up more failures than successes by nature of living long lives and having the courage to try things. It is the successes – such as marriage, [...]
Don’t Let A Fight Get In Your Way
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Divorce, Family, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romance on 2012/02/02 | Leave a Comment »
It’s natural to fight. You won’t agree on everything. To maintain a strong, healthy relationship filled with respect, keep your head during a fight and try not to say anything deliberately insulting or hurtful, regardless of how upset you are. Remind your spouse that you still love him, even while you fight. Originally published 10 [...]
A Path To Creating Vegetarians
Posted in Pets & Animals, tagged Dating, Diet, Eating, Food, Health, Meat, Relationship, Vegan, Vegetables, Vegetarianism on 2012/01/31 | Leave a Comment »
If you’d like to convince your partner to go vegetarian, invite him to a meat tasting tour – to meat processing facilities. Originally published 25 October 2010.
Irreversible Estrangements Can Cause The Deepest Regrets
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, tagged Children, Family, Grandparents, Happiness, Life, Love, Parents, Relationships on 2012/01/30 | Leave a Comment »
A painful – yet, avoidable – regret is to realize that an estrangement caused between two family members is irreversible at the end of a family member’s life. While growing up, an acquaintance of this blog was told stories vilifying her grandparents by her parents. However, when her grandparents were ill and dying, her parents [...]
Don’t Overwhelm
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Relationships on 2012/01/29 | Leave a Comment »
Few people want to hear complaints constantly. Most people are attracted to people who make them feel better about themselves and their environment. When people inquire into how things are or what you’ve been doing, keep it light. Only provide wholly negative information if something truly terrible and rare happened, the person is a close [...]
Posted in Business, Driving, Getting Ahead, tagged Driving, Success on 2012/01/27 | Leave a Comment »
The only way to get your way on city streets is making the other person stop.
Add A Little Drama: Break A Dish
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Dating, Drama, Love, Partner, Relationships, Relief, Romance, Stress on 2012/01/25 | 1 Comment »
If you’re at a tense point in your relationship and you’re desperate for release, go to another room and break a dish. This might sound extreme, but, it’s one of those things where you don’t know how great it is until you try it. (Just be careful to not injure your eyes.) Invite your partner to [...]
Putting A Lesson Learned To Work
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Business, Communication, Dating, Friends, Love, Relationships, Success, Work on 2012/01/24 | Leave a Comment »
Following is an example of how you can benefit from understanding the impact a person’s bias has on her interpretation of information. If a person seems to suffer from middle child syndrome, then she might be habitually suspicious of the reasons behind a person’s actions. As such, even if explaining you are proposing a solution to a problem, [...]
Understanding A Person’s Bias Improves Communication
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Balance, Bias, Business, Communication, Media, Relationships, Success on 2012/01/23 | 1 Comment »
To effectively negotiate relationships, it’s important to acknowledge that our bias taints our perceptions. It’s equally important to recognize that the perceptions of others are affected by their biases. Doing this will enable you to effectively relay information by anticipating the response of others. Likewise, understanding how a person’s bias affects how he assimilates and [...]
Ahhh, The Benefits Of Swimming….
Posted in Beauty, Dating, tagged Aerobics, Dating, Exercise, Fun, Health, Muscle, Pleasure, Relationships, Swimming on 2012/01/21 | Leave a Comment »
There are great benefits to swimming for men and women. For women – even those uncomfortable with their appearance – it’s a great way to find a date for a number of reasons. For example, there’s less competition. Generally, health club pools are dominated by men. Often, women at a health club pool tend to [...]
Your Future You Depends On You
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, tagged Business, Fortune, Friends, Happiness, Health, Success, Vitality, Wealth on 2012/01/20 | Leave a Comment »
Sowing seeds for your future isn’t limited to money; it includes the actions you take that affect your long-term interests. Your future you is relying upon the steps the current you is taking in order to realize dreams, vitality, and financial security. Consider what the future you will need, want, or regret having done or [...]
Dieting Principles Applied To Meetings: Don’t Gorge On Time
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Employment, Jobs, Management, Office Politics, Organaization, Perspective, Time Management, Work on 2012/01/10 | Leave a Comment »
Time at meetings can be like food on a plate: some people eat only as much as they need, some will lick the plate clean, while others will lick their plate clean then eat from another’s. Just because someone scheduled a block of time to meet with you at work doesn’t mean you have to take up the whole time; it’s [...]
Don’t Be Afraid To Say Hello – All Relationships Begin With A Greeting
Posted in Dating, Improving Relationships, tagged Clubs, Courage, Dancing, Dating, Friendship, Love, Relationships, Romance on 2012/01/08 | Leave a Comment »
Being shy or reserved is natural. Meeting people can require effort, even for extroverts. Striking up a conversation with someone you don’t know requires courage. Displaying such courage has its rewards: because most people feel they do not have this courage in themselves, they are impressed when it is exhibited by someone else. Often, the [...]
Lessons Learned From Pepsi Throwback
Posted in Business, tagged Business, Cola, Corn Syrup, Flavor, Pepsi, Pepsi Throwback, Soda, Sugar, Taste on 2012/01/05 | Leave a Comment »
What has Pepsi throwback taught us? Sugar is much better tasting than corn syrup. To a degree, it can lead to healthier products (e.g. requiring less sodium or more juice).
Posted in Family Enrichment, tagged Child, Children, Children & Family, Life, Love, Parenting, Parents, Pregnancy on 2012/01/04 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re not prepared to put your children’s interests before yourself, you shouldn’t have children. Children deserve to be more than ancillary characters in their parents’ lives.
Valuable Insights Can Be Gained In First Impressions
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Behavior, Bullies, Dating, Interview, Jobs, Office Politics, Relationship, Relationships on 2012/01/03 | 2 Comments »
First impressions are not necessarily accurate measures of the person, but, they should be heeded when forming a long-term personal or professional relationship. Often, behaviors exhibited during a first meeting are characteristic and going to be exhibited again. Most likely a person who exhibits domineering traits during a first date will exhibit these and worse [...]
At Times, Arriving Late Can Be An Early Arrival
Posted in Personal Enrichment, tagged Arrival, Courtesy, Employment, Etiquette, Hours, Office, Office Politics, Performance Evaluation on 2011/12/13 | Leave a Comment »
Generally, an exempt employee does not need to arrive to the office early - or even on time - as long as the employee arrives before his boss and his boss’ boss.
Simple Step To Improving A Poor Working Relationship
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Employment, Jobs, Networking, Office Politics, Perspective, Relationship, Work, Workplace Conflict on 2011/12/10 | Leave a Comment »
Generally, relationships are key to achieving success. To overcome a poor relationship with someone, sit next to that person whenever possible. It compels that person to communicate and often cooperate with you. Most likely, that person will eventually begin to view you as a member of his team, a partner to achieving his success.
Expansive Vocabularies Expand Options
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, tagged Diplomacy, Emotions, Success, Vocabulary, Wisdom on 2011/12/09 | Leave a Comment »
Choose your language carefully. In situations requiring diplomacy or affecting emotions, a broad vocabulary can be handy. For example, using the word “disappointed” can go farther than saying you “resent” being overlooked or are “perturbed” by a person’s actions.
If You Care, Don’t Leave Everything To An Attorney
Posted in Finances, Getting Ahead, Lessons From Divorce, tagged Friends, Law, Lawsuit, Legal Matters, Life, Perspective, Politics on 2011/12/03 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re struggling through a legal matter in which you are emotionally involved, ask a friend to objectively evaluate the situation. An objective third-party that walks through the facts and reads all related materials can keep the situation in perspective, ensuring all critical issues are captured. This will be especially handy if you have an [...]
Share Your Bed
Posted in Improving Relationships, tagged Dating, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Romance, Sleep on 2011/11/30 | Leave a Comment »
Sleep (in the same bed) with your partner after a fight. Don’t relegate yourself to the couch, nor require your spouse to do so. Instead, encourage your partner to share your bed. If your partner chooses to sleep on the couch or in another room, ask to join her. While you might be upset immediately following the [...]
Two Compromises To Improve Quality Of Relationship & Quality Of Work
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Business, Career, Children & Family, Compromise, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships on 2011/11/29 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re spouse works ridiculous hours, consider compromising if his job is necessary for attaining your collective long-term financial goals by focusing on quality of time over quantity of time. If your spouse is demanding that you spend more time with her and less at work, consider compromising by negotiating with your supervisor to perform [...]
A Spouse’s Career Is A Mutual Investment
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Career, Children & Family, Compromise, Happiness, Investment, Love, Marriage, Relationships on 2011/11/27 | Leave a Comment »
Successful and mutually rewarding relationships require compromise. If a spouse’s commitment to work is causing strife within a relationship, it’s important to evaluate the couple’s long-term goals and how the spouse’s job fits into attaining those goals prior to calling it quits on the relationship. A job can be crucial to advancing a person’s career. [...]
If “Why Not” Cannot Be Explained, Then Ask Why
Posted in Business, Getting Ahead, Psychology, tagged Innovation, Philosophy, Physics, Quantum Physics, Science, Why, Why Not? on 2011/11/23 | Leave a Comment »
If “why not” cannot be explained, then “why” should be asked. If something seems irrational but you cannot explain why it’s most likely wrong, then time might be better spent and answers found by looking into why it happens.
Posted in Dating, Improving Relationships, Lessons From Divorce, Things Better Off Said, tagged Breakup, Children & Family, Death, Divorce, Love, Relationship on 2011/11/21 | Leave a Comment »
Relationships don’t last forever and people don’t live forever. It’s important to keep socially active so that a person is not left hanging, trying to develop new relationships and strengthen old, later in life.
Self Preservation Requires Short-Term & Long-Term Acts
Posted in Family Enrichment, tagged Child, Children & Family, Happiness, Love, Parent, Regret, Relationships on 2011/11/18 | Leave a Comment »
Many people get into spats with parents resulting in the child not wanting to speak with the parent. At times, there are very important reasons for creating a barrier of separation from a parent, such as an emotionally or physically abusive parent, or a parent attempting to sabotage a relationship. Not speaking to a person [...]
Negotiate From The Mountain Top, Not The Base
Posted in Business, Finances, Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, tagged Law, Negotiation, Parties, Politics on 2011/11/15 | Leave a Comment »
If you are going to negotiate over something, the best approach is to be fully informed. Prior to going in, contemplate what actions might be required by the other party in response to any proposals or ultimatums you might make. Legal or practical obligations can affect the other party’s response.
Two Motivational Workout Devices
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, Psychology, tagged Appearance, Beauty, Exercise, Happiness, Health, Physical Exercise on 2011/11/09 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re finding it difficult to motivate yourself to workout, think of how great you feel afterwards or the wonderful effects the exercise is having on your appearance.
If You Wouldn’t Do It To Someone Else, Why Do It To Your Child?
Posted in Family Enrichment, tagged Abuse, Child, Children, Children & Family, Corporal Punishment, Hitting, Parenting, Spanking, William Adams on 2011/11/05 | Leave a Comment »
If something, such as striking a person, is inappropriate to do to an adult, why is it appropriate to do it to your child? Likewise, if you’d never do something, such as smacking, to someone else’s child, why do it to your own?
Your Boundaries Come First
Posted in Business, Psychology, tagged Acting, Actor, Boundaries, Ghosts, Ghoul, Goblins, Halloween, Haunted Attractions on 2011/10/31 | Leave a Comment »
Haunted house producers, don’t direct your audience to not touch your actors if you have not communicated a hands off policy to the actors. Even if you have communicated a hands off policy to your actors, any actor that comes into physical contact with an audience member should not be surprised to find himself knocked [...]
Hovering Leads To Smothering
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Communication, Emotions, Employment, Etiquette, Friends, Happiness, Office Politics, Relationship on 2011/10/13 | Leave a Comment »
Sometimes it is best to give a person space. If a person exhibits rising tension, anxiety, or frustration, don’t hang over them. Give him a break. If you become too much of a pest, you can damage your relationship with that person. The person might be driven to avoid you because it is apparent you’re unable to [...]
Posted in Personal Enrichment, tagged Change, Children & Family, History, Life, Parent, Regrets on 2011/10/10 | Leave a Comment »
If there are things you’d tell your younger self to do differently, why not do those things now?
Snapping Fingers Sends A Chilly Message To Children
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, tagged Children, Children & Family, Communication, Etiquette, Happiness, Life, Love, Parenting, Respect on 2011/10/08 | Leave a Comment »
Snapping fingers at children to gain their attention and direct their actions is disrespectful. It treats them as subhuman, deteriorating respect and trust. Try saying the child’s name or communicating your message in a respectful and engaging tone and language, instead.
Strengthen Relationships By Offering Stability During Another Person’s Meltdowns
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, tagged Behavior, Communication, Employment, Friendship, Getting Ahead, Jobs, Office Politics, Relationship, Workplace Conflict on 2011/10/03 | Leave a Comment »
If a person seems to be melting down, try to not take it personally. Give the person an opportunity to vent without being defensive or judgmental. Avoid being passive as well. Remain calm and listen. Most likely, the person will appreciate your ability to maintain cool while lending an ear and shoulder. It can be an exceptionally [...]
Ensure You Understand The Message
Posted in Business, Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Interview, Manage Successfully, tagged Behavior, Communication, Employment, Etiquette, Getting Ahead, Interview, Jobs, Office Politics, Successful Management, Workplace Conflict on 2011/10/02 | Leave a Comment »
In business, it’s important to effectively read between the lines. If you’re unsure what a person is trying to communicate, tell them you don’t understand or are confused by their message.
Sometimes, A Degree Can Hurt A Job Applicant
Posted in Education, Getting Ahead, Interview, tagged Bachelors, College, Employment, Job hunting, Job Search, Masters, Phoenix, Resume, Strayer, University on 2011/09/29 | Leave a Comment »
From the perspective of a hiring manager, obtaining a degree from a nonconventional for-profit university such as Phoenix or Strayer can actually be a strike against job applicants to white-collar jobs requiring licensure, such as in Accounting or Law, in vertically fluid work environments. Degrees from universities such as these can suggest that the candidate prefers [...]
Own Your Destiny
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Enrichment, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Health, Perspective, Psychology, Relationship, Results, Success on 2011/09/27 | 1 Comment »
Don’t let people control or affect your decisions through guilt or derision. If the only reason you might change a decision is due to someone else’s negative response, consider the purpose your decision is intended to serve and whether your reason for changing your decision is worth not fulfilling that purpose. For example, if someone’s [...]
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Personal Enrichment, tagged Enrichment, Fulfillment, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Investment, Life, Love, Relationship on 2011/09/23 | Leave a Comment »
Generally, a fulfilling life requires effort, an investment of time.
Make Taking Medicine Fun For Your Pet
Posted in Pets & Animals, tagged Cats, Dogs, Ferrets, Medicine, Pets & Animals on 2011/09/21 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re having trouble convincing your pet to swallow a pill, there are many common suggestions to help, such as disguising the pill by mixing it with savory food. A very simple method is to convince the pet that the pill is a treat by playing with it with your pet, such as by rolling the pill [...]
Posted in Beauty, Psychology, tagged Aging, Attraction, Beauty, Perspective, Psychology, Vitality, Young, Youth on 2011/09/18 | Leave a Comment »
If you want to maintain the appearance of being young, don’t complain about – or comment on - matters related to your aging.
