If you’d like to be polite by trying a dish someone else has made, but suspect you will not like the dish, take only a small portion at the start of the meal. Then, if you like it, you can take more. If you don’t like it, you can give the impression that you like it [...]
Archive for the ‘Psychology’ Category
Easy Method To Disguise Your Distaste Of Someone’s Cooking
Posted in Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Cooking, Diet, Eating, Entertainment, Food, Holidays, Meals on 2012/05/13 | Leave a Comment »
Want Better Results? Team With The Pro.
Posted in Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Doctors, Health, Healthcare, Medicine on 2012/04/01 | Leave a Comment »
To cultivate a respectful beneficial relationship with a new doctor, don’t tell him what you think you have; tell him what you are experiencing and then, if you’re really worried, ask if he thinks you might have what you suspect. This is a good rule of thumb to apply with any other service provider, as well.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Doctors, Health, Healthcare, Medicine, Secrets, Small Town on 2012/03/30 | Leave a Comment »
New to a small town? Here’s a general tip: don’t see a doctor in the same small town unless you don’t mind sharing secrets.
Creativity Thrives Outside The Box
Posted in Psychology, tagged Anime, Beauty, BJD, Couture, Culture, Fashion, Harajuku, Japan, Persona, Personality, Pop Art, Star Trek, Stephen Colbert, Street Fashion, Venus, Venus Angelic, Venus Palermo, YouTube on 2012/03/25 | 1 Comment »
Controversy over Harajuku street fashion, in particular anime inspired street fashion, has been growing with the rising cognizance of the persona Venus Angelic (Venus Palermo). While some embrace Venus, others complain about odd obsessions. As much as one might be repelled by or mock the persona or culture, something to remember is that, historically, people such [...]
Posted in Psychology, tagged Beliefs, Bias, Phobias, Prejudice, Stigma on 2012/03/08 | Leave a Comment »
Recognize your biases and note how your actions reinforce the biases of others. Originally published 13 July 2010.
Turn Yelling Into A Learning Experience For You & Your Child
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Child, Development, Family, Happiness, Learning, Life, Love, Parenting on 2012/03/03 | 1 Comment »
Few parents want to yell at their children, yet nearly all do. We don’t condone yelling at children, but, if you slip, turn it into a teachable moment. When you cool off, sit down with your child and invite him to share his thoughts and feelings about the experience. Listen to him – don’t turn [...]
Want More Of A Good Thing? Be Generous With Positive Feedback.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Business, Communication, Employment, Feedback, Happiness, Karma, Negative Feedback, Positive Feedback, Rewards on 2012/02/24 | 1 Comment »
Businesses seldom receive positive feedback from customers. If someone does something exceptional, engender additional good behavior and reward the employee by letting the business know. Take five or fewer minutes to type or jot a short note, or have a brief conversation with a manager. On the flip side, many businesses will reward negative customer feedback with reimbursements, rebates, vouchers, or coupons. But, customers are rarely [...]
Posted in Improving Relationships, Politics, Psychology, tagged Caring, Children & Family, Diplomacy, Empathy, Love, Peace, Politics, Relationship, Success on 2012/02/05 | Leave a Comment »
If you don’t care, there’s no reason (excuse) to not be empathetic.
Are Your Values Borrowed?
Posted in Family Enrichment, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Children, Faith, Family, Love, Parenting, Values, Work on 2012/02/04 | Leave a Comment »
Often, our aspirations are set by our parents. Our parents communicate what is important, what generates value in their lives, through their actions. Parents who work endless hours for their employers communicate to their children that working endless hours is how one emulates maturity and demonstrates commitment to his employer. Step back. Reassess your values. [...]
Long Term Perspective On Success & Failure
Posted in Business, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Attraction, Business, Failure, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Success on 2012/02/03 | Leave a Comment »
Accept that at times you will fail. Likewise, when you do fail, remember that you will experience success again. By the time we retire, we’ll most likely have racked up more failures than successes by nature of living long lives and having the courage to try things. It is the successes – such as marriage, [...]
Perception Controls Fact
Posted in Politics, Psychology, tagged Arts, Fact, Logic, Perception, PR, Psychology, Reality on 2012/01/22 | 2 Comments »
Generally, fact matters less than perception: perception is fact to the perceiver – it doesn’t matter what was the real intent or what was really done, what matters is how people perceive the words or actions. It is because perception forms reality that it is possible to change a person’s understanding of reality.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Business, Employment, Happiness, Job Search, Jobs, Liesure, Pleasure, Work on 2012/01/19 | Leave a Comment »
To be satisfied at work, you have to accept that it’s okay to be occasionally dissatisfied with your job. Not every day is going to be rosy.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Experience, Expertise, Knowledge, Pride, Success, Wisdom on 2012/01/18 | Leave a Comment »
Each of us has knowledge or expertise that someone else does not. We can all take pride in this.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Children & Family, Dating, Enrichment, Friends, Friendship, Happiness, Life, Love, Psychology on 2011/11/25 | Leave a Comment »
Even painful moments can enrich your life if you let them.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Children & Family, Friends, Friendship, Happiness, Life, Love, Pleasure, Relationship on 2011/11/24 | Leave a Comment »
Even if you are not convinced of it, someone somewhere loves or cares about you.
If “Why Not” Cannot Be Explained, Then Ask Why
Posted in Business, Getting Ahead, Psychology, tagged Innovation, Philosophy, Physics, Quantum Physics, Science, Why, Why Not? on 2011/11/23 | Leave a Comment »
If “why not” cannot be explained, then “why” should be asked. If something seems irrational but you cannot explain why it’s most likely wrong, then time might be better spent and answers found by looking into why it happens.
Two Motivational Workout Devices
Posted in Beauty, Natural Remedies, Psychology, tagged Appearance, Beauty, Exercise, Happiness, Health, Physical Exercise on 2011/11/09 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re finding it difficult to motivate yourself to workout, think of how great you feel afterwards or the wonderful effects the exercise is having on your appearance.
It’s No Secret
Posted in Psychology, tagged Getting Ahead, Gossip, Psychology, Secret, Secrets, Successful Management on 2011/11/03 | Leave a Comment »
A secret is something you know that others do not. Something ceases to be a secret once it is shared, whether it is shared with you or you share it with others. If someone has shared it with you, likely the “secret” has been shared with others.
Your Boundaries Come First
Posted in Business, Psychology, tagged Acting, Actor, Boundaries, Ghosts, Ghoul, Goblins, Halloween, Haunted Attractions on 2011/10/31 | Leave a Comment »
Haunted house producers, don’t direct your audience to not touch your actors if you have not communicated a hands off policy to the actors. Even if you have communicated a hands off policy to your actors, any actor that comes into physical contact with an audience member should not be surprised to find himself knocked [...]
Lessons From A Natural Disaster: Shop Creatively
Posted in House Matters, Psychology, tagged Camping, Drinking Water, Emergency, Merchandise, Natural Disaster, Power Outage, Shopping, Supplies on 2011/10/30 | Leave a Comment »
In natural disasters, people tend to run to hardware and general merchandisers for survival products. As such, these stores can be wiped out of survival products quickly. If you’re ever in such an emergency and unable to find supplies at these big box stores, try a retailer that sells camping or sports equipment, instead. Often, [...]
Lessons From A Natural Disaster: Investigate The Local Infrastructure
Posted in House Matters, Psychology, tagged Drinking Water, Electricity, Natural Disaster, New England, Nor’easter, Power Outage, Snow Storm, Water Pollution on 2011/10/29 | Leave a Comment »
Before committing to moving somewhere new, look into the community’s infrastructure. For example, how old is the infrastructure? How often do they experience electrical shortages? How quickly are electrical shortages resolved? How often do they have water contamination issues? How are water contamination issues resolved and how quickly?
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Posted in Psychology, Spirituality, tagged Black Hole, Depression, Happiness, Philosophy, Psychology, Sadness, Sorrow, Universe on 2011/10/23 | Leave a Comment »
No matter how bad things might be or feel, it could be worse. For example, our universe could be sucked into a black hole.
Hello: Intro To Games In The Workplace
Posted in Manage Successfully, Psychology, tagged Employment, Environment, Games, HR, Human Resources, Jobs, New Hires, Work on 2011/10/22 | Leave a Comment »
Playing games to introduce people in the workplace is a juvenile approach. If you wouldn’t do it when introducing friends or neighbors, you certainly shouldn’t be doing it in the workplace.
Posted in Entertainment, Psychology, tagged Creativity, Desire, Dreams, Entertainment, Imagination, Leisure, Pleasure, Universe on 2011/10/20 | Leave a Comment »
Within your mind is a universe in which you create your own worlds and adventures, limited by your imagination and desires only.
Posted in Psychology, tagged Decision Making, Planning, Probability, Psychology, Scheme, Strategy on 2011/10/17 | Leave a Comment »
Most actions are based on probabilities.
Hovering Leads To Smothering
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Communication, Emotions, Employment, Etiquette, Friends, Happiness, Office Politics, Relationship on 2011/10/13 | Leave a Comment »
Sometimes it is best to give a person space. If a person exhibits rising tension, anxiety, or frustration, don’t hang over them. Give him a break. If you become too much of a pest, you can damage your relationship with that person. The person might be driven to avoid you because it is apparent you’re unable to [...]
Own Your Destiny
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Enrichment, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Health, Perspective, Psychology, Relationship, Results, Success on 2011/09/27 | 1 Comment »
Don’t let people control or affect your decisions through guilt or derision. If the only reason you might change a decision is due to someone else’s negative response, consider the purpose your decision is intended to serve and whether your reason for changing your decision is worth not fulfilling that purpose. For example, if someone’s [...]
Posted in Beauty, Psychology, tagged Aging, Attraction, Beauty, Perspective, Psychology, Vitality, Young, Youth on 2011/09/18 | Leave a Comment »
If you want to maintain the appearance of being young, don’t complain about – or comment on - matters related to your aging.
People Before Puppies
Posted in Family Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Cat, Child, Children, Children & Family, Crazy, Crazymakers, Dog, Kids, Love, Loyalty, Parenting, Parents, Perspective, Pets & Animals, Psychology, Relationship, Respect on 2011/08/07 | Leave a Comment »
Don’t prioritize a pet over a child. Such behavior is never cute. Consider what prioritizing a pet over a child communicates to that child. A child recognizes that a parent has given greater status to a pet within a family than the parent’s child. Depending on the child’s age, such behavior can compel a child [...]
Posted in Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, Politics, Psychology, tagged Ethics, Getting Ahead, History, Lie, Manipulate, Manipulation, Perspective, Reality, Spin, Successful Management, Truth on 2011/07/17 | Leave a Comment »
Spinning or manipulating facts is a form of lying.
Posted in Natural Remedies, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, Spirituality, tagged Behavior, Control, Effect, Emotion, Enrichment, Happiness, Health, Inspiration, Life, Love, Natural Remedies, Presence, Psychology, Relationship, Religion, Ritual, Spirituality, Success on 2011/07/08 | Leave a Comment »
Rituals create a false sense of control. But, sometimes that’s all that’s necessary to maintain control over one’s corrupting emotions.
Posted in Getting Ahead, Psychology, tagged Communication, Getting Ahead, Humor, Interview, Networking, Perspective, Psychology, Relationship, Rhetoric, Successful Management on 2011/07/07 | Leave a Comment »
Take care when using rhetoric; the recipient might take what you say seriously and can be offended, or think you’re simple.
Feigning Ignorance To Acheive Results
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Manage Successfully, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Communication, Conflict, Conflict Resolution, Getting Ahead, Ignorance, Office Politics, Perspective, Problem Solving, Psychology, Relationship, Results, Success, Successful Management on 2011/07/03 | Leave a Comment »
A way to gain additional background into a sensitive matter is to pretend to know nothing or very little about that matter. Generally, if one person believes a second person is unaware of a matter, he’ll provide details necessary for the second person to agree with the first person’s opinion. Further, the first person will [...]
Youth Not Wasted
Posted in Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Adage, Aspirations, Axiom, Choices, College, Decisions, Dreams, Education, Enrichment, George Bernard Shaw, Goals, Happiness, Industry, Leadership, Life, Problem Solving, Regret, Riches, Success, Waste, Wishes, Young, Youth on 2011/06/30 | Leave a Comment »
The fallacy of the adage “youth is wasted on the young” is that there is insufficient time to realize every aspiration. Time is only wasted by those whom can leave the sofa but never do.
Project Wisdom: Step 2
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Manage Successfully, Psychology, tagged Business, Communication, Continuing Education, CPE, Education, Effective Communication, Efficiency, Employment, Executive, Getting Ahead, Intelligent, Jobs, Leadership, Psychology, Public Speaking, Relationships, Seminars, Smart, Speaking, Speech, Success, Successful Management, Toastmasters, Training, Wisdom on 2011/06/25 | Leave a Comment »
Another way to project wisdom is through efficient, effective, and eloquent communication. Being able to successfully communicate a thought with the fewest amount of words and simplest language leaves more time to focus on other things and circumvents confusion and frustration. Equally important is successfully determining the best format under which to communicate your message and understanding [...]
The Snorkeler & The Shark
Posted in Natural Remedies, Psychology, Things Better Off Said, Travel, tagged Behavior, Bravery, Courage, Diving, Fish, Great White Shark, Health, Hero, Heroism, Life, Perspective, Predator, Problem Solving, Psychology, Safety, Security, Shark, Snorkeler, Snorkeling, Swimming on 2011/06/20 | Leave a Comment »
Sometimes, you must play it safe in order to be a hero. Recently, a group of snorkelers was trailed by a great white shark in open water. As the large fish circled, one of the snorkelers stayed in the water to help others board the yacht. She put her own safety at risk, trying to [...]
Posted in Psychology on 2011/06/20 | Leave a Comment »
People who swim with sharks shouldn’t be surprised to be bitten.
Cogent Communication Of Attraction
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Improving Relationships, Psychology, tagged Affection, Amore, Appeal, Attraction, Beauty, Communication, Dating, Desire, Feedback, Gifts, Happiness, Lingerie, Love, Perspective, Physical Appearance, Physical Attraction, Pleasure, Relationship, Romance, Style on 2011/06/14 | Leave a Comment »
If you’d like to cogently communicate to your partner your appreciation of her figure, present to her a gift of lingerie you’d like to see her wear. This conveys that you find her so appealing that you enjoy and seek opportunities to view her body. (Usually, such gifts are modelled for the gift-giver.) Also, giving gifts of lingerie demonstrates an interest in participating in your partner’s process of [...]
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Ability, Disability, Enrichment, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Hope, Life, Lou Gehrig's Disease, Perspective, Philosophy, Pleasure, Psychology, Stephen Hawking, Success, Try on 2011/05/30 | Leave a Comment »
Don’t worry about the things you can’t do; worry about the things you can do but don’t. “While there’s life, there is hope.” – Stephen Hawking
Posted in Psychology, tagged Accomplishment, Failure, Memory, Success on 2011/05/28 | Leave a Comment »
Generally, people remember your most recent accomplishments only, and never forget your failures.
Loving Thyself
Posted in Getting Ahead, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Confidence, Employment, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Jobs, Jon Ronson, Leadership, Love, NPR, Office Politics, PCL-R, Psychology, Psychopath, Robert Hare, Self Assurance, Self Respect, Self Worth on 2011/05/26 | Leave a Comment »
1 out of every 100 people is a psychopath. (Not all psychopaths are murderers.) Generally, their actions are taken out of self-interest. In work, your actions should be taken out of your self-interest. Nobody is obligated, and few will be inclined, to put your self-interest before theirs. If your actions are taken out of love and [...]
Virtual Vacation
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Body, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Health, Refresh, Rejuvenating, Unwind, Vacation on 2011/05/24 | Leave a Comment »
Give yourself a virtual vacation by carving out time occasionally to do something you enjoy, such as a quick hike in the woods, an extra 15 minutes to sleep in, dining out with a friend, or eating a box of chocolates in front of the TV, during hectic or stressful times. Bodies and minds both need time to unwind, [...]
What Does Infrastructure Say About Your Community?
Posted in Business, Family Enrichment, Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Politics, Psychology, Travel, tagged Bridges, Community, Cronyism, Decay, Development, Ethics, Ethos, Getting Ahead, Goals, Government, Happiness, Infrastructure, Investment, Job Search, Jobs, Law, Moving, Nepotism, Politics, Psychology, Relocating, Roads on 2011/05/23 | Leave a Comment »
If you want an idea of what a community is like, take a look at its infrastructure. The condition of bridges, roads, and other public resources reflects a community’s ethos: it’s priorities, whether the culture is collaborative, the extent to which it is egalitarian – rewarding people based on merit rather than privilege or status, and [...]
Adapting To Love
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Lessons From Divorce, Psychology, tagged Divorce, Happiness, Life, Love, Marriage, Partner, Pleasure, Romance, Spouse on 2011/05/03 | 3 Comments »
Some say we must accept how and who our loved ones are when entering a marriage because no one changes in a marriage. In fact, it’s the opposite. We must adapt in order for our marriages to be successful. If we are capable of change, so are our partners.
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Dreams, Goals, Hope, Imagination, Perseverance, Persistence, Success on 2011/05/02 | Leave a Comment »
Rather than give up hope, reimagine your dreams.
Posted in Personal Enrichment, Psychology, Spirituality, tagged Apocalypse, Cataclysm, Doomsday, End, Faith, Happiness, Harold Camping, Last Day, Life, Love, May 21, Pleasure, Prophesy, Psychology, Religion, Spirituality on 2011/04/27 | Leave a Comment »
Living every day as though it is your last deprives you of your future.
Move Out Of Your Way
Posted in Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Accomplish, Achieve, Angela's Ashes, Britain's Got Talent, Dreams, Enrichment, Fear, Frank McCourt, Getting Ahead, Goal, Happiness, Harry Potter, Health, J. K. Rowling, Life, Love, Pleasure, Psychology, Singing, Success, Susan Boyle, Writing on 2011/04/23 | Leave a Comment »
Don’t let yourself be immobilized by fear or feeling of lack of accomplishment. The only way to accomplish something is to step towards that accomplishment. Don’t be discouraged by your age or adversity. As Frank McCourt, author of Angela’s Ashes, J. K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series, Susan Boyle, a singer that placed second on Britain’s Got Talent [...]
To Whom Should I Cleave?
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Lessons From Divorce, Psychology, Spirituality, tagged Argument, Aunts, Behavior, Children, Children & Family, Communication, Cousins, Divorce, Enrichment, Genesis 2:24, Grandparents, Happiness, Health, Life, Love, Parents, Perspective, Relationship, Separation, Strife on 2011/04/20 | Leave a Comment »
When parents have children, they have an important decision to make. With children, the parents created a new family. The parents must then decide which to prioritize more – the families into which the parents were born, or the family the parents created. This is a genuine decision as, rather than being objective, some parents [...]
Take Care Of The Ones You Love
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, Things Better Off Said, tagged Children & Family, Dr. Mark Lachs, Dr. Oz, Friends, Friendship, Happiness, Health, Life, Longevity, Love, Mehmet Oz, Partner, Relationship, Spouse on 2011/04/18 | 1 Comment »
It’s nearly indisputable that the way we approach and live our lives impact our longevity. Numerous studies have shown a correlation between positive outlooks, an ability to adapt to stress, and longevity. Likewise, numerous studies have shown that negative responses to stress and feelings of low self-worth can negatively impact our health and longevity. It’s [...]
Working Magic On Children Hurt During Divorce
Posted in Family Enrichment, Improving Relationships, Lessons From Divorce, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Child, Children, Children & Family, Communication, Conflict, Disappointment, Divorce, Enrichment, Ex, Happiness, Health, Life, Loss, Love, Magic, Outlook, Partner, Perception, Perspective, Relationship, Separation, Spouse on 2011/04/17 | 3 Comments »
If you’re committed to putting your children first, understand your ability to affect the feelings of your children in a divorce or separation. It’s inevitable that the actions of a parent or family member might disappoint your child – such as by not showing up to a child’s event, responding poorly to demands on the [...]
Who Defined Whom?
Posted in Getting Ahead, Improving Relationships, Personal Enrichment, Politics, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Bullies, Demands, Getting Ahead, Happiness, Office Politics, Opinions, Politics, Principles, Psychology, Relationship, Respect, Value, Workplace Bullies, Workplace Conflict on 2011/04/09 | Leave a Comment »
You don’t gain respect from people whom constantly demand you appease them by predictably obliging at your expense. If you want people to value your opinions and contributions, you must demonstrate that you have opinions and contributions by which you abide. For what do you stand? Do your principle goal posts move each time they are pushed? If [...]
Communicating What You Think
Posted in Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Communication, Grammar, Language, Thoughts, Writing on 2011/03/31 | Leave a Comment »
There’s no need to tell someone you “think” something when you’re telling that person what you think. That’s redundant. For example, when you’re communicating that something works best, there’s no need to tell the person, “I think this works best.” It’s apparent that you think it works best by telling the person, “This works best.”
How To Apply Lessons From Wisconsin At Home
Posted in Improving Relationships, Politics, Psychology, tagged Arguments, Behavior, Children & Family, Dating, Disagreements, Friends, Friendship, Happiness, Love, Politics, Psychology, Relationship, Scott Walker, Unions, Wisconsin on 2011/03/21 | Leave a Comment »
A lesson from Wisconsin’s battle over public unions is that it pays to take advantage of the general public’s short memory by front loading any controversial actions. This allows time for tempers to cool and the subject matter to lose priority in peoples’ lives. The same lesson can be applied at home. If you have bad [...]
Lessons In A Crisis: Sacrifice
Posted in Personal Enrichment, Psychology, Spirituality, tagged 9/11, Behavior, BP, BP Oil Spill, Crisis, Daiichi, Disaster, Dispersants, Earthquake, Fukushima, Fukushima 50, Gulf of Mexico, Gulf Oil Spill, Health, Japan, Nippon, Nuclear, Nuclear Disaster, Nuclear Power, Psychology, Sacrifice, Tsunami on 2011/03/19 | Leave a Comment »
Another take-away from the crisis of Japan is having the grace to put the welfare of one’s family and community before one’s self when a difference can be made. The tradition of sacrificing oneself for the good of the group is deeply ingrained within the Japanese culture. As such, it is not surprising to those familiar with [...]
Lessons In A Crisis: Keep Your Cool
Posted in House Matters, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Crisis, Daiichi, Disaster, Do the Right Thing, Earthquake, Fukushima, Health, Japan, Nippon, Nuclear, Nuclear Disaster, Nuclear Power, Psychology, Spike Lee, Tsunami on 2011/03/19 | Leave a Comment »
A lesson from the crisis in Japan is not to lose your cool in a disaster. If a person loses his head, he reduces his ability to help himself for several reasons. First, the person can be viewing the situation through blinders obscuring potential solutions. Second, people are generally less responsive to a person acting [...]
Nothing To Fear But Our Imaginations
Posted in Dating, Getting Ahead, Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Axiom, Behavior, Business, Dating, Enrichment, Fear, Franklin Roosevelt, Happiness, Imagination, Irrational, Love, Paranoia, Perspective, Pres Roosevelt, Problem Solving, Psychology, Quotes, Rational on 2011/03/13 | Leave a Comment »
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” (President Franklin D. Roosevelt, in his 1933 inaugural address.) We fear because we have imagination – we imagine what can happen to us. Without that, what or why would we fear? For example, why do most people fear heights? Because they imagine themselves falling. (Even though the source of fear is our imagination, [...]
Help Dies In A Vacuum
Posted in Personal Enrichment, Psychology, tagged Abuse, Addiction, Behavior, Emotional Security, Fear, Health, Help, Intervention, Life, Psychology, Rescue, Safety, Save, Security on 2011/03/12 | Leave a Comment »
If you want someone to save you, you must be willing to save yourself. Two TPLL contributors invested several years and thousands of dollars trying to help a person who claimed to fear for her life in an abusive relationship. Yet, each time the contributors stepped up to the plate to help her – taking [...]
Lessons From Wisconsin’s Battle Over Public Unions
Posted in Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, Politics, Psychology, tagged AFL-CIO, Behavior, Civil Liberties, Democratic Party, Democrats, DNC, Election, Ethics, GOP, Indiana, NY Times, Ohio, Politics, President Obama, Private Unions, Problem Solving, Public Unions, Republican Party, Republicans, Scott Walker, Strategic Thinking, Strategy, Successful Management, Unions, Wisconsin on 2011/03/11 | 1 Comment »
Lessons from the Wisconsin public union battle: The sooner you accomplish something, the sooner people forget. By launching the battle immediately following the last big election, Governor Scott Walker and the Republican members of Wisconsin’s congress front load the risk of their controversial actions. (It also creates more time for public union financing to dissipate [...]
Posted in Finances, Politics, Psychology, tagged Life, Etiquette, Office Politics, Hiring Decisions, Unemployment, Relationship, Poll, Employment, Jobs, Ethics, Perspective, Politics, Bullies, Workplace Bullies, Theft, Rich, Poor, Health, Wage, Wealth, Poverty, Labor, Salary, Servitude, Vassal, Indenture, Enslavement, Feudalism, Enslave, Humiliation, Broke, Broken, Debase, Crush, Shame, Vanquish, Desperation on 2011/03/05 | Leave a Comment »
When everything is taken away from the poor, what more is there to take?
Predicting Your Future?
Posted in Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, Politics, Psychology, tagged Alternatives, Arguments, Consequences, Debate, Fool, Forecasting, Prediction, Prophesy, Prophet, Winning on 2011/02/25 | Leave a Comment »
Long-term predictions are a surefire way to look like a prophet, or a fool. Strengthen an argument by focusing on immediate or short-term consequences and alternatives. (Misspellings and incorrect word usage are also surefire ways to look foolish.)
The Rising Expectations Of Dogs
Posted in Pets & Animals, Psychology, tagged Animal Behavior, Animals, Begging, Behavior, Behavioral Issues, Children & Family, Dog, Expectations, Food, Friends, Pets & Animals, Treats on 2011/02/11 | 1 Comment »
Don’t expect dogs to think or understand things the same way you do. If you provide a dog a treat, such as food from your plate, for a special occasion more than once, he won’t understand that the treat is for a special occasion. He will expect to receive more in the future and can become a pest [...]
Project Confidence Via First Person
Posted in Getting Ahead, Manage Successfully, Politics, Psychology, tagged Behavior, Communication, Confidence, Critical Success, First Person, Form, Getting Ahead, Grammar, Interview, Language, Opinion, Perspective, Politics, Psychology, Second Person, Speaking, Success, Successful Management, Tips on 2011/01/13 | Leave a Comment »
Ever notice that when some people try to explain their reasons for doing something, they respond in second person, using language that projects their actions onto the listener? For example, when a person is asked how he feels about his parents winning the lottery, he might say, “you are surprised when you learn it’s your parents [...]
Turning Rumor Into Fact
Posted in Politics, Psychology, Tales & Curses, tagged Axiom, Belief, Communication, Distrust, Ethics, Fact, Human Behavior, Lie, Media, Movies, Network, Print, Psychology, Radio, Rumor, Rumor Mill, Trust, Truth, TV, Wikipedia on 2011/01/08 | Leave a Comment »
A common axiom provides that if you repeat a lie often enough, it becomes truth. With modern technology, one does not need to repeat a lie for it to become truth. A rumor or fiction told in a movie, on TV, or over the radio can be amplified and retold through various forms of electronic media until it’s rabidly accepted as [...]
Create The Appearance Of Larger Breasts In A Business Suit
Posted in Beauty, Dating, Getting Ahead, Natural Remedies, Psychology, tagged Appealing, Appearance, Attire, Attraction, Attractive, Augmentation, Beauty, Bigger Boobs, Bigger Breasts, Boobs, Breasts, Business Suit, Cute, Dating, Desire, Dress, Employment, Etiquette, Jobs, Office Politics, Performance Evaluation, Sex Appeal, Sexual, Sexy, Small Waist, Suit, Wardrobe, Women on 2011/01/06 | Leave a Comment »
Women with small breasts, or large stomachs in comparison to the size of their breasts, can make their breasts look larger and their stomachs smaller in business suits by buttoning their suit jacket up to, but no higher than, just under their breasts. The lapels of the jacket swell out, which, enhanced by a dress shirt buttoned [...]
Poll: What would you do if you were the father confronting the thief in “The Road?”
Posted in Polls, Psychology, tagged Apocalypse, Behavior, Bullies, Children, Considerate, Cormac McCarthy, Courage, Daughters, Ethics, Gifts, Giving, Hate, Kindness, Poll, Sons, Stealing, The Road, Theft, Thieves, Thoughtful, What Would You Do? on 2011/01/02 | Leave a Comment »
Posted in Hiring Decisions, Lessons From Divorce, Manage Successfully, Psychology, tagged Breaking Patterns, Coincidence, Deliberate, Lessons Learned, Pattern, Perspective, Psychology, Relationship, Successful Management on 2010/12/28 | Leave a Comment »
The difference between coincidental and deliberate is a pattern.
There’s Something About Yoga
Posted in Natural Remedies, Psychology, tagged Back Pain, Ballet, Breathing, Dancers, Elegance, Exercise, Grace, Health, Meditation, Mental Health, Natural Remedies, Pain, Pain Relief, Posture, Stress, Stress Relief, Stretching, Workout, Yoga on 2010/12/27 | Leave a Comment »
If you’re having back pain, trouble sitting or standing up straight, feeling out of shape and don’t have time to work out, or don’t feel graceful, try yoga. Yoga stretches muscles, and improves breathing and posture. It can raise metabolism and, unlike other forms of exercise, can be performed during most daily activities, such as bathing, [...]
